How to plan a Mother’s Blessing

mother's blessing


Many people haven’t heard of a mother’s blessing and are more used to women holding a baby shower before their baby arrives. A blessing is a really wonderful, and in my opinion, much more fitting alternative for a mother to be – so much attention is given to the baby once they arrive that this is a perfect chance for a women’s circle of friends to celebrate her transformative rite of passage as a mother welcoming a new life into the world, and to surround her with love and support.

Inspired by the Navajo Blessingway ceremony, the practice of a Mother’s Blessing in some form can be found in many cultures thought history as a sacred container for the mother to be surrounded and lifted up by her village, and can be designed in various ways.

All are welcome, and in fact the beauty is in bringing women from all walks and stages of life together to share their stories and celebrate their own divine feminine power individually and as a collective. All women are pure magic, they create life and deserve to be held and empowered, especially around the sacred journey of motherhood – and this event can be a lovely gathering in kinship and community for all in attendance.

Location

Most people prefer to hold such an intimate event at the home of the mother or one of her close friends – indoors or outdoors depending on the time of year – but any space which is easy for the mama to get to, comfortable for guests to relax in, and ideally has beautiful light, would work well.

Setting the space

In the centre of the circle many choose to set an altar with sacred objects, offerings from nature and gifts from the guests for the mother to keep.

If you would like to add other special touches to the room then think comfort and beauty – sofa and floor cushions for people to gather in circle, plants and lots of flowers!


The container

Having one person to hold the space is a very good idea to give structure.. this can be one of the guests who may have had experience at leading circles or if you are working with a doula for the birth then they would likely be delighted to help and will bring some of their own ideas.

My own birth keeper Laura Swann led a beautiful ceremony for us which ran as follows –

Before guests arrived, Laura set up the altar space with her own sacred altar objects including a beautiful pregnant mother sculpture she had commissioned, Koshi wind chimes, spring flowers in a vase and mandala from both of our gardens and our Gaia Mother Earth candle at the centre.

Laura had also prepared cacao with rose and after the women had each stirred their intentions into the pot they were served a ceremonial dose to take into the circle with them to help with grounding and heart opening.


Opening the circle

Laura called the women into the space using her shamanic drum and smudged each of them one by one with a sage bundle and feather.

She welcomed everyone and spoke about the significance of the day as I chose to hold the blessing on Ostara, the spring equinox, itself a time of fertility and new life.

The format of the ceremony ran according to the elements of Earth, Air, Fire, Water and Ether – and the meaning of each direction of the circle was explained, an interesting insight to where everyone had decided to sit. Laura was sat in the East, the direction of Air and Ostara or Eostre herself, and myself and the three children present were sat in the North, the direction of Earth and the ancestors.


Sharing + Offerings

In circle everyone’s voice is encouraged and honoured, and anyone who wanted to share was invited to do so – a story related to birth or motherhood, a reading, poem or personal message for the mama to be – as well as gifting something small for my birth altar. In turn the women gave an offering from nature, personal creation or something they felt called to bring which was truly beautiful 🌸

Candle ritual

We were each given a beeswax taper candle to light from the Gaia candle, which Laura had lit from her own candle previously lit with Brigid’s flame in Ireland, a sacred fire that burns in Kildare and evokes Brigid – the goddess of the great mother, of the sun, healing, childbirth and midwifery.

All guests lit theirs in turn and extinguished it with a blow or a snap of their fingers as they made an intention for my birth and the circle.  The young girls particularly enjoyed this part!  All were invited to take the candle with them and to light again when I go into labour, creating a circle of light and wave of love around me 💞


Sacred Water

A bottle of water Laura had taken from a sacred well near the sea in Eastbourne was passed around the circle for each guest to imbue with their intentions and for me to either drink during my labour or pour into my birth pool.

Pulling cards

Laura had bought the most beautiful deck of medicine cards, The Mother’s Wisdom deck, and asked each of us to pull a card. We then went round the circle to share the card we had chosen and what it signified to each of us in the context of the day.

Incredibly Laura pulled Eostre, the goddess of spring, light and fertility – and I pulled Smoke: Gratitude which was also amazingly apt. On looking closer at the image a phoenix rises in the smoke and I realised that it was in reference to my greatest gift of all, my son Arlo and how his loss had shone a light into my shadows and enabled me to be reborn to follow my higher purpose 💗

Excerpt from the book below.


Sound journey

Laura then invited us all to close our eyes and using her drum, voice, singing bowl and wind chimes treated us to a beautiful sound journey. 

Closing the circle

To close we wove a web of connection between all of us in circle by passing a ball of red yarn around. Each woman wrapped it around their left wrists with the help of our neighbour, and were invited to keep wear the thread as a reminder that the circle was closed yet unbroken until the birth or until it fell off.


Creativity

I love to add an opportunity for everyone to get creative and had prepared craft materials for each of us to make something I could keep forever.  At my last blessing we created birth affirmation art with pressed flowers and gold leaf – and this time I added watercolours and asked everyone to design a small moon which I could frame all together for the baby’s room. 

Food

After this we feasted on home cooked food that I had prepared, however equally you might want to invite everyone to bring a pot or dish of something to share.


Other ideas

There are many other elements you can include in your blessing and I encourage you to design your own event weaving in ideas which resonate with you.

Some people like to open by inviting guests to welcome their own female ancestors into the circle by name, and including some pamper time for the mama is very popular – for example painting the belly with henna or body paint, giving her a foot rub, braiding her hair or creating a flower crown for her. You could also ask the guests to bring a bead to string a necklace for the mama to wear during labour.

Resources

Some good resources I’ve found are:

Motherhood Rising book

Milk + Seed | The Mother Blessing


I hope you enjoyed this and are inspired to host a mother’s blessing for yourself or a dear friend! It’s a truly beautiful day all the guests will remember forever ✨


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